12/4/2019 0 Comments 2wwAnyone who has tried to conceive knows the 2 week wait well, that time between ovulation and either a positive pregnancy test or a period. I have to admit that I'm not well practiced at these as I've only had a handful of 2ww's to date, though I have picked up a few useful tips from fellow fertility sisters and experts. The mind games are the hardest part of the waiting and not knowing, so this is how I've been engaging this "homestretch" (as it's called in Fertile Hope Yoga): Joy & Gratitude I'm focusing on joy and gratitude by choosing to do things that bring me joy and spending some time each day in gratitude. The thing is, I can't feel both joy/gratitude and fear at the same time. It's tempting to sometimes stay in my self-protective stance of preparing for the worst but this just strips the joy out of the now. If I'm focused on the worst possible outcome, I'm also more likely to set up a self-fulfilling prophecy by making decisions or sending subtle messages to my body that suggest I shouldn't get pregnant. I want to live a life right now that I'd feel excited to welcome a baby into. Joy, collected over time, fuels resilience - ensuring we'll have reserviours of emotional strength when hard things do happen. - Brené Brown - Grounding Practices These are the daily habits and practices that I've been cultivating throughout my fertility journey to keep me connected to my body, to the earth, to the Spirit, to my deepest self, and to the present moment. My grounding practices right now include: Meditation/Prayer Walking Outside Yoga Journaling/Morning Pages Affirmations What I am telling myself is so, so important. That's why I've collected the truths that I've received over the last while about me and my ability to get pregnant, and recorded them so that I can listen to them regularly. Again, if I am feeding my mind with positive messages there's less room for negativity and despair. That's not to say that I am shoving less pleasant emotions like fear or sadness to the side; rather, I've scheduled a daily check-in to air out my worries but it means that the rest of the day I can work at dwelling in possibility. Some particularly helpful reminders when fears arise have been: PMS and pregnancy symptoms are remarkably similar. When I notice stuff going on in my body I don't have to assume that I'm getting a period. Right now I don't know whether or not I'm pregnant so I don't have to jump to the conclusion that I'm not. My conscious mind doesn't have the ability to make a baby so I might as well be at ease. If now is when a baby is going to come, then they're on their way and there's nothing more I can do other than continue good self-care. Companion Others I've also been incredibly grateful that I have the opportunity to support other people on their fertility journey through a holiday support program. There's nothing like reaching out to another to release me from my self-involved swirling and to know that there is a community of people out there who also know the struggle certainly helps me feel less alone.
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