3/7/2020 0 Comments ExpectationAs I round the corner into the second trimester, I've been giving some thought as to how my expectations influence my experience. You see, there are certain symptoms and discomforts that come with the territory of pregnancy and I was prepared for that. I was able to handle the first trimester nausea, fatigue and food aversions with relative ease because it's what I was expecting. However, I've heard so many women comment on second trimester bliss that I had inadvertently set myself up with unrealistic expectations so when the second trimester started with headaches and a very rare complication requiring medical intervention, I found myself spiraling into a funk. As I've adjusted my expectations, I've found myself once again more adaptable to the day-to-day fluctuations in my body. Expectations and mindset have also played a huge role in how I experienced my fertility journey. I've noticed that compared to some individuals and couples who go through fertility treatment as Plan B, I've been spared much of the grief and trauma of assisted reproduction because it was my choice from the very beginning. More often than not, visits to the fertility clinic were exciting because we were receiving an opportunity to conceive that we wouldn't have otherwise. I generally don't do well on medication but the side-effects of the meds used to treat my endometriosis and support my cycles were much easier to tolerate because I wanted to take them, as opposed to having to take meds. Being on medication wasn't always pleasant, but I always felt it was worth it. My doctor did a great job of telling me about the possible side-effects so they didn't take me by surprise, while always reminding me of the bigger purpose of a particular treatment. Even when a medicated cycle didn't yield a positive pregnancy test, I moved through the disappointment because I understood that these "failures" were an unfortunate part of the process. Finding the balance between realistic expectations, trusting my ability to handle whatever comes, and dwelling in all the hope and possibility has become essential to living life well for me. Categories
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